What makes a great marriage
A World Wide Marriage Encounter pastor once told me 1 in 2 marriages fails. If the couple is married in church and continues to go to church, only 1 in 50 fails; but where the couple is married in church, continues to go to church and has a prayer life together, the failure is 1 in 1005.
Besides prayer, there is much you can do to make your marriage a success. Ryan Stephensâ Dialed in Men gives âsix rules for marital successâ. His ârecipe for marital successâ is âfocusing more on being teammatesâ.Â
His first rule: âNo one should ever hear anything bad about your spouse from you.â Rule number two: âOver-communicate. You cannot read each otherâs minds.â Rule number three: âTry new things together. Even if one of you is typically more adventurous than the other.â Adrenaline can do a lot to rejuvenate a marriage.
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Rule number four: âBe each otherâs champion. Celebrate wins and encourage each other. Bring home champagneâ¦â Rule number five: âBe grateful for each otherâs contributions. And donât keep score.â And rule number six: âTrust and respect each other. Especially in front of others, including your children.â
Stephens wrote, âMarriage, or any long-term relationship, is not all about love and romance. Itâs about working at it day in and day out.â Taylor Swift revealed to Elle a nugget of relationship advice, âI know a couple,â she writes, âwho, in the thick of a fight, say âHey, same team.â â
Diana Bruk shares âThe Habits That Will Most Increase Your Chances of Divorceâ. 1.Not Listening to Her Concerns: Women instigate about 80 percent of divorcesâmany after years of feeling unheard or having their concerns minimized.Â
2.Trying to Change Them: âTrying to get your partner to change⦠is controlling,â You cannot change your partner.
3.Not Getting Enough Space: Have your own space. One wife said she could not stand her husbandâs snoring until they got a second bedroom. 4.Nitpicking: ââ¦constant contempt and criticism towards each other is damaging to the individual and the relationships.â â¦pick your battles.Â
5.Tech Disruption: â¦ignoring someone while flipping through your phone â¦flirting with someone on Instagram â¦couples streaming separate net flicks at nightâ¦. âFacebookâ was cited as the cause for divorce in one of five petitions in Britain.
6.Forgetting that You are Partners As Well As Parents: Schedule a regular date night, regardless of how busy you both are. 7.Getting Into a Rut: Surprise one another on occasion with flowers, gifts, or even vacationsâ¦
8.Not Splitting Up the Chores: 25 percent of couples divorce due to âdisagreements about housework.â Pick up the slack! 9.Not Saying âThank Youâ: Donât take things for granted.Â
10.Not Being Truly Committed: âDo what it takes to make the relationship work.â 11.Sweating the Small Stuff : There are many little things that you can ignore.
Emily Jennings shares this blessing with couples:
Hereâs to the home that n and n shall build.
It shall have a kitchen on the first floor,
A bar on the second floor,
A bedroom on the third floor,
And a cathedral on the fourth.
So they can eat when they are hungry,
drink when they are dry,
make love when they are lonely,
and have salvation when they die.
Next week â âA divorce free cityâ
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